making it from polygamy

“My mother was the 6th wife and I never stopped asking her why she agreed to be the 6th wife to a man who already had many wives and children. She often told me, ‘My son, I had no say in my life back then because my parents decided for me.’ I made up my mind that I won’t let myself become my father, because there wasn’t enough for all the children in the house. So I learned mechanic and I’ve been doing this job for 25 years. When I married my wife, I made sure she got something doing. We have 3 daughters and I spend close to ₦300,000 every school year, just to make sure my daughters get the best education. When the proprietor of their school found out I was a mechanic, she couldn’t believe it because of the caliber of people whose children schooled there. But I want the best for my daughters, so no man can joke with their future. When I started my business, I had an accountant who advised me to buy a land and start building on it. Land was cheap then, so I saved up some money and bought a land. Little by little, I built my house and for the past 13 years, I have been living in my own house with my family. I am nearing my fifties now and I think many of the things I have done in my life was influenced by what I saw, growing up in a polygamous home. I didn’t want my wife to suffer same things my mother suffered and I wanted my children to have the best education. Thankfully, my daughters are getting the best. It’s one thing to have a plan and another thing to execute same. It has not been easy, but I am gladly getting by. Many of my mates who enrolled to learn this work with me ran away, because they felt it was too tedious. Many of them became conductors and I still see some of them today. I feel bad for them because if they had endured the beatings and suffering for a little time, they would’ve been enjoying by now. If you’re chasing something in this life, just know challenges and suffering will come. Make up your mind.”
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